Get Her in a Flash: Secrets to Relationship and Communication

Every relationship that we know or hear of has a start that trickles down to communication. Without communication, all happenings around us would be meaningless.

According to G.G. Brown, he defines communication as the transfer of information from one person to another whether it elicits confidence or not. The information being transferred must be understandable to the receiver.

Fred G. Meyer then simplified it by defining communication as the intercourse by words, letters or messages.

Communication doesn't have to be necessary through words but it can be achieved through body language, speaking, and writing. Thus, what you say, write, body posture or facial expression is a way of communication. Communication is a key aspect of life in our day to day life as it enables us to express ourselves in whatever manner of feelings one might have.

The relationship can be seen in different aspect be it between countries, two or more people, groups families among others. Depending on the cause of the connection the relationship defers from place to place and person to person. The relationship can then be defined as the way in which two or more people, countries etc, talk to, behave towards and deal with each other (Learner's Dictionary).

Therefore in the wish of having any kind of relationship with a person you need to have a good sense of communication; In that, you communicate in a way that you can be easily understood. Know the kind of barriers that might enhance your communication or deter it.

To attain effective communication depending on the time, place or event, always know the barriers to avoid reactions that are undesirable and unfavorable.

Communication barriers can be caused by environment, physical and attitude among others.

• a) Time – pick a suitable time to approach a lady. Best to avoid late nights.
• b) Space – do not be too close to the lady in order to ensure personal space is given.
• c) Place – the place can be misunderstood with your intention. E.g. avoids approaching a lady in dark alleys or secluded places.

These are barriers whereby you use ambiguous words in which the meaning might not be understood or words that have connotation meaning. Choose your words wisely, be exact and to the point with what you say and how you say it.

We all have different ways in which we perceive information or a situation. To avoid any kind of misunderstanding, be open, flexible and transparent, and keep in mind that what you have in mind at that time might not be the same to the other party.

Having an idea of the barriers that will help a girl admire you in the shortest time possible, let us look at what you can do to make you more attractive to her.

As mentioned earlier, there are different ways to communicate, your posture can say a lot about the kind of person you are or your mood. Depending on your height or body size with the proper, powerful posture, one can show his confidence and importance. An upright sitting posture can be related as one who knows what he wants and nothing else. No woman will want to be approached by a man whose self-esteem is low or lacks confidence.

To attain this posture ensure your neck is elongated and the back is straight. Reveal an open and broad chest by slightly pulling your shoulders back. A broad and open chest is a way of communicating that you are comfortable with the environment around you and ready for anything that comes your way.

Always have your hands free and relaxed. It is common to have your hands pocketed or at the back especially if nervous or anxious. Despite the anxiety you may have, you will have to swallow that bile and show that lady you are in control.

Your eyes can say a lot about what is happening in your brain, this is according to various studies done on the brain. Our eyes are not only used to be able to navigate in our environment, but can also be used to express ourselves. When approaching a woman, avoid looking at various places or having your eyeballs rotate all around. Instead look straight into her eyes, this is a way of communicating or getting her intention. It can convey a message such as "Hey you caught my attention and I wish to have a word with you". You can also know if the woman is attracted to you by looking at her pupil. Researchers state that when someone is attracted to you their pupils dilate and become larger. However, do not stare directly into her eyes for too long a time, as this may make her uncomfortable.

Be your own man they say. It may be cliché, but it goes a long way in reality. Avoid going with the crowd or your buddies, just because your friend got a certain woman in seconds due to his tuxedo doesn't mean that you should also wear that to get your own. Dress in a manner that you feel confident in yourself like you own the world, but again do not be too overconfident. Stand out in a way that when you are challenged about your looks you can easily defend yourself.

A smile can melt the heart. A simple smile can bring people closer without words. It is believed that most women are to be the ones to give out the first smile in a way of saying "hey" or "I too am interested", but you do not expect the woman to smile to a frowning face. A smile is a smile especially if it is all natural and pure.

You have all the details in line to get her attention and get her to notice you, which makes the approach easier. Without a first move, you are yet way behind the goal. This is the enemy of many because you might not be too sure of what words to use and not use. Having the wrong words will disqualify you on the spot. The simple way to make the move is as soon as you see the woman you admire before insecurity questions come trickle in your mind. Waiting a second later will make you try and answer questions that are not there in the name of perfecting your approach. Let the thinking happen when you already standing few centimeters from that woman you admire.

These tips are for practice, that when perfected, will be smooth sailing for you to make the first move when you manage to get the woman you are interested in. A last secret: Do more listening and less talking.