25 Signs, Qualities & Traits of a Great Boyfriend

Not all boyfriends are as good as they should be. And if you are wondering how to find that out, there are 25 signs that you need to look out for. It is always easy to have a boyfriend, but finding a really good one is much more challenging. And if you ever do find one, it is very likely that he is already taken. This article is about some tips to help you find a really good boyfriend—one that you should keep.

Finding the perfect boyfriend

No human is perfect. Since everyone has flaws, it will be a monumental task to find the one the fits all the qualities we are about to lay out. Before you go hunting, make sure that you are also at your best self. We should be careful when we judge. Sometimes, what seemingly is a human flaw is nothing more than ignorance. And it can be corrected. Many guys do the best they can to please a woman, but they end up failing. This means that you must be able to see the potential of a guy and help him realize these to meet your needs.

The qualities of a good boyfriend

The most important quality to look for in a boyfriend is the ability to communicate. A man who is willing to talk is a man who wants a relationship to last. A strong relationship is built on the foundation of communication. Only time can reveal the flaws of a human. And it is during these moments that you are presented an opportunity to voice out your concerns.

Communication between each other

Once you find a man who will listen to you, find the time to talk to each other. Each of you must understand the other's desires, wants, and ambitions. During crucial situations where communication is imperative, your boyfriend must be willing to listen. If he doesn't, it is better to let him go and spare yourself the agony of trying to make him change.

List of 25 signs and traits of a great boyfriend

Below are the 25 signs and qualities of what makes a man a good boyfriend. This is best used as a yardstick if you have only been dating your boyfriend for a few weeks. This list is a useful guide to determine if the two of you are a good match.

These qualities are not heroic, to say the least. These are simple characteristics that one must expect of a man. We can say that these are basic expectations. If your boyfriend lacks any of these, then perhaps it is time that you speak with him. If he does not possess several of these, you can either communicate with him or you can part ways and look for someone else.

• 1. He Actually Listens to You What You Say - A smart man knows that he does not know it all. If you have something to say, a good boyfriend will lend a listening ear. He has to acknowledge that you are better than him in some aspects of life.
• 2. He Builds Trust and Doesn't Keep Secrets - If he keeps on doing things that put you on the dark, such as keeping secrets or not letting you in on important matters in his life, he is essentially not laying a solid foundation for your relationship. A good boyfriend is always transparent. He communicates his fears, his doubts, and his insecurities.
• 3. He Is and Remains Romantic - It is not unusual for guys to get cold after the courtship is over. But you must stay away from guys who seemingly just changed abruptly. Any man who just sits back and expects you to take care of the relationship is not worth it. A good boyfriend is someone who retains the same spark of romance from the beginning. Anyone who changes over time is someone who is likely to be self-centered.
• 4. He Tries to Make Himself Look Good/Hot for You - A man who cares about how people would think about you will always try to be at his best. A good boyfriend will also present himself to you in the best way he can because he respects you.
• 5. He Communicates With You - A man who loves his girlfriend talks. He shows an interest about the things that you do and he expresses himself if needed. He should be able to understand you. He must try to understand you as much as he wants you to understand him.
• 6. He Shows Interest in Your Life - A boyfriend who does not ask you how your day was is not interested in your life. A boyfriend who cares must show an interest about your problems, worries, and frustrations. He must care about the things that matter to you. He has to be there to hear about your day and if he doesn't, you must see some spark of sadness in his eyes that he missed a part of your life.
• 7. He Wants To Make You Feel Secure and Loved - A good boyfriend will always try to re-assure you of his enduring love. This can be through words or by giving you gifts despite the lack of an occasion. A hug or a simple expression of endearment is also a proof that he loves you.
• 8. He Makes Time Just for You - A good boyfriend should never be busy enough. He has to make sacrifices to be with you. If he is immersed in work, he must at least find a time to see you, text you, or call you. And this must be voluntary. It does not make sense for a boyfriend to see you just because you had been asking for it.
• 9. He Has His Goals and Ambitions in Life - A boyfriend who has no ambition is another extra luggage in your life. A good boyfriend is one that knows what he wants to achieve. He must be positive about it, instead of finding reasons to justify or excuse his failures.
• 10. He Makes Compromises for You - It does not have to be his way all the time. He must be able to do some things for you even if he despises these things. And he must do these things because he loves you.
• 11. He Isn't an Addict - Has No Addictions To Anything - A boyfriend who has an addiction is a going to be serious let down in your life. This addiction will take control over you, over himself, and over your relationship. He must be willing to go through any means necessary to prevent getting addicted or to get rid of an already existing addiction.
• 12. He Wishes For You to Be Independent - It is normal for a man to want to be with you all the time. But it is not healthy if he wants your world to revolve around him. He must give you some space that you can spend with your family and friends. A good boyfriend understands that you also need a life with him not being around.
• 13. He Is Great in Bed - He has to initiate sex and must keep an active sexual relationship between the two of you. He tries to make it exciting and fun. He knows that it is just as important as the other aspects of you relationship. He understands that sex is critical in keeping the romance alive.
• 14. He Sees and Understands You - A good boyfriend is always aware about you. He must know you well and understands you even if you do not talk. He must also show interest if you have a new haircut. He must notice your new dress. A guy who loves you will see something new and endearing in you all the time.
• 15. He Is Respectful of your Family and Friends - A guy who loves you will always try to be nice to your friend and family even if he does not like them. This is a sign that he will go out of his way to not create a rift between you and the people you care about.
• 16. He Respects You and Who You Are - A man should not be looking at other women when they are with you, much less speak about it. He must also never speak badly of you. Not with his friends, and not with his family. He must also know that there are some things in which you are better than him and he must acknowledge these things.
• 17. He Is A Man of Principles - A good boyfriend must stick to his words and not be easily swayed. If he makes promises, he must keep them. He must know when to apologize if he did something wrong. A man who keeps on looking for excuses, or a man who is easily swayed, will not achieve anything of any worth in his life.
• 18. He Makes You Feel Important and Worthwhile - There is nothing more that will make you feel valued than feeling like a royalty. A boyfriend must go out of his way and prioritize you. He must do things in his life in consideration of how you will feel. You have to be a part of the major life decisions that he makes.
• 19. He Attempts to Make You a Better Person - A good relationship is one where you bring out the best in each other. A good boyfriend must be there to motivate you and help you achieve your dreams. He must be there to push you harder to reach your goals. A boyfriend who brings you down cannot be trusted.
• 20. He Is Not A Lonely Man - A lonely guy is a problematic person. He will drag you into the abyss of his loneliness. He will cage you and isolate you. A person who has no friends is an indication of a personality imbalance. It is likely that he is antisocial. It is also likely that he has a history of violence.
• 21. He Is Fun, Active & Exciting - A good boyfriend must have a life of his own. It is great if he has an active social life so his world does not revolved only around you. When around people, he must have an aura of being warm and welcoming. A boyfriend who is not likeable will only alienate you from people.
• 22. He Isn't a Control Freak - Doesn't Control You - A man who tries to control everything that you do is not boyfriend material. This behavior will imprison you in a relationship that will not make you happy. Each person is entitled to the freedom of choice.
• 23. He Calls/Text You - He should be keeping in touch regularly, even if he is on the other side of the world. He should also be proactive in telling you about what is going on with his life. He must exert effort to at least send you a text or call you just to check in on how you are doing.
• 24. He Doesn't Force You - You must never feel pressured to do something you do not want. A boyfriend will respect this boundary. If your boyfriend refuses to understand this or tries to manipulate you into doing something you despise, then this man is not for you.
• 25. He Isn't A Stubborn Man - A man who does not listen is a man trading on the road to peril. A good boyfriend listens to you and takes your word seriously. He must carefully assess or weigh in on his choices before making decisions. He has to make compromises and ensure that your interests are met.

If you see so many of these 25 things lacking in your boyfriend, maybe it is time for a chat. You need to point these things out and give him a chance to change. If you don't, these little behaviors will be like termites gnawing at your house. And by the time you try to fix it, it is too late.

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