1Sarge: A 42-year record of true love to her last breath.

I like things kept simple. Simple kinds of dates like festivals, bargain shopping, and just driving to nowhere in particular, visiting historical sites or new places to us. I care less about what I would do with you than I do just being with you, at least if we are a good match. I have one rule for dating, even though it could be set aside from time to time for the right situation. We are together to enjoy each other's company and not for any particular thing we are doing. So, for any date we are on, the rule is things must be slow enough for either of us to take the other by the hand, walk arm in arm, be able to sniggle or cuddle, or steal a kiss, a hug, or just gaze into each other's eyes at any random moment. It's not that I'm planning any such move or that I expect it to happen on any particular date. But why ruin the moment if it is meant to happen by moving so fast that such things can't happen if the opportunity is meant to happen. If it doesn't, we'll live. As I always say, "If you ain't dead, you'll live". I generally won't push myself on a lady as it could look like I'm just after one thing, which isn't my style. I welcome you making the first move or flat out let me know you want me to make the first move if that's the case. I am not seeking out or expecting sex, though some smooching wouldn't be bad if it's heartfelt. I've learned that waiting for the lady to be ready for such things proves I think she's more than a cheap pleasure toy to me, and that's she's well worth the wait. And the passion is far greater when love is added to the pleasure. It doesn't compare. I learned that a lady's smile is my joy, if I have the right lady. If I don't have that, she can do better. These things are how my late wife & I had an extreme true love for 42 plus years.

My late wife had cancer that was extremely painful for ten years to her last breath. So much, I stayed celibate because I take my love that serious. She's been where she has no more pain since just into March of 2019. She has no more pain at least until I join her there. Just joking there. But I am still celibate since she moved upwards, all because I take my love that serious. If we are a good match, know 42 years of that true of a love is what I offer my next lady. If you've been cheated on, abused, or just not loved, I might be able to show you the other side of love. Just like she had. She has been called blessed because I loved her that much, but in truth, I think I was the blessed one. I am looking to repeat that level of love to the right lady. I just have to find someone interested in that much love.

I am retired from a Division I university and have served a combined 21 years between the active-duty Army & the Indiana Army National Guard, of which I retired from as well. I am politically independent but conservative. After being willing to die for freedom like some of my relatives, I won't agree with liberals, socialists, and others on the opposite end of being conservative. I was raised as an Independent Baptist but would consider attending other denominations services. But if we differ too much, I'll never convert to satisfy mankind over what I feel God teaches. But know hate no matter how much we differ on such things. While I am more conservative leaning politically, more Baptist leaning religiously, and have other things we may differ on, it doesn't mean I am hateful because of it, just because we have different ways of thinking. While being with someone that is more in line makes more sense, it could work if we are mature enough to just disagree and leave it at that. That really depends on how well we click as to if we both can be on board with simply disagreeing like mature adults should. But we can be friends even if these things have the potential to not make us a wise choice to be more than friends.

I do have facial hair, but I have it because I like it. However, should we get serious, I am more than open to shaving to however far you like it. I am talkative but can still be an introvert at times. I like ancestry and am proud of some famous ones I have. But that can be covered in a future date if we get that far. I can slow dance but could use practice with that. Since I'd lose a dance contest to a rock, private dance lessons are welcome. Especially the close up and personal kind. My brother tried to teach me the two-step and I couldn't even get the one-step so HELP! I like shopping for bargains. I'll hold your purse with no reservation or thought but don't ask me to get in there for you. I can't bring myself to get into a lady's purse. It just is too uncomfortable for me. I also would consider learning some of your hobbies, but that is decided on a one-on-one basis.

I like many genres of music, but my go to is Southern Gospel music. I love such at church concerts when I can. If you love it too, you just got brownie points. If we could make a good duet or you could write music to sheet music, then more brownie points as I write music for this genre but lack the talent of getting it from mouth to sheet music. I also like Contemporary Christiam, country, and oldies from the 50's to the 80's. While it isn't a deal breaker, I love someone seeking a partner to grow in the faith with.

I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs. I watched my dad die from emphysema and don't ever want to relive that nightmare again, so no smokers please. I have had minor amounts of drinking long ago in my past, but it never really was my thing. I don't mind CBD for medical reasons & used it for that once or twice myself. My late sister had the shingles, and CBD oils was the only thing that made her pain bearable, so for medical reasons I can at least understand why someone would consider it under those circumstances. I like to tell what I call grandpa jokes. They are like dad jokes but dorkier. Anything for a laugh if it's not embarrassing. But sometimes even then too.

Since I am getting older, I am finding I need to eat whole foods and less prepackaged products. Like frits, veggies, proteins, less fatty meats and more fish, chicken and lean meats. I am also wanting to start things like Christian versions of yoga, Pilates, & meditation. I am beginning to eat foods that clean the arteries, liver, kidneys, & colon. This is where blockage causes most illnesses men my age gets like heart attacks. I would hope for someone who could go for this themselves, so I don't have to worry about you. It also makes you more energetic and makes your mind function better as blood can better get to the places that cause that reaction there. There is a Bible verse that says, "the life is in the blood". But the more I research a diet that is right for me, the more I find this is true with the body, even though it likely was referring to having the blood of Jesus cover our sins if we are His I want to get out and do more walking activities. But I hate rushing as you miss too much good stuff. And you can't enjoy your time as fully if you are always in a hurry. I kind of want to do my exercises with that mentality too. I had to do the hurry up kind in the Army for 21 years. It made me hate exercise so much I wouldn't do it on my own time. So, if I am going to get more fit, it's gonna be in a way I don't mind it & might even like it. Thus, the yoga, Pilates, meditation, and maybe throw in some stretching style of exercise too. And having a partner in crime to join me would make it even more pleasurable. I used to weigh in at 255 lbs. at about 5 ' 6 or 7". I am down to very near 200 and seek mild forms of exercise to add to that to speed it along just a bit. I don't run because it makes my sinuses drain so bad it's had to breathe. On my last physical fitness test for the Army, my sinuses drained so bad that I blacked out from the inability to get oxygen. I came to as I was rounding a corner and caught myself as I came to and was about to land face first in a mud puddle deep enough, I would likely have drowned. It isn't laziness that makes me hate running, it is the fear of danger the effects of running does to my system. The dangers outweigh the benefits in my case. The last time I enjoyed running was when I was in elementary school and this sinus issue was nonexistent then. I always beat even the high school kids is races back then. And they had shoes on while I ran on gravel barefooted. Couldn't handle the gravel now though.

I enjoy sports but prefer enjoying the game more than participating in them. I am not fanatical about them and could care less about league, team, or player stats. I just want to enjoy the game if that is what we end up doing. I never was much for golf, but I'd gladly be your caddy & cheer you on at the appropriate time. I am not much for video games but do play shorter games like mahjong, dominoes, and such. Long and drawn-out games just bore me before they are down. I prefer more of a time frame that isn't seeming like time is eternal before it finally ends. I am open to learning games you may like just to see if I can enjoy them or not. It's not that I'm overly nitpicky, but that I lose interest if it's too drawn out over time. I haven't been fishing or camping since I got married in 1981 but wouldn't mind giving it a shot again with someone who knows what they're doing. My late wife was more of a homebody and a city girl. She wouldn't adjust to trying them, so I had to adjust more to her homebody city ways. I also wouldn't mind trying to ride a horse again. I did it at church camp and the experience was terrifying. Neither the horse or I did anything wrong. Some smart aleck kid thought it would be funny to smack the horse's backside hard. It scared the horse and my terrified young kid self-choking it's neck hard to hang on likely didn't help matters. So, I'd like to face that fear sometime before I die.

Fashion is weird as one style looks awesome on one lady and the same identical style is horrid on another. I think sometimes how you carry yourself and how comfortable you are in your own skin has something to do with that as does your personality. Generally, I prefer more modest looks like light shades of makeup and lipstick if not more natural tones. I am not saying modest like you are Amish, but I prefer the sensual styles be for my eyes only if I become your man. While I usually prefer no tattoos or piercings, sometimes those things I prefer be missing are what makes some women appealing to me. So just be yourself and don't worry about it. Like I keep saying, "If you ain't dead - you'll live"! I'm the same with hair color too. While I generally prefer natural colors, I wouldn't reject you if you have crazy wild colored hair. In the end, it's your heart I will be attracted to.

Some focus on age, hair color, height, weight, race, ethnic background, education, and other such things. Your heart & soul are the real you. Many of those things can change over time. If our hearts and souls are not a good match, none of the other things matter at all. So even if you are disabled, I need our hearts & souls to match up well first and foremost. Some of the other things might influence it some, but this is more important to me. And if you have kids or grandkids, that doesn't matter. If we connect is what matters most. I am not needing the perfect match as it doesn't exist. But the imperfect perfect match does. I had it once, and I hope to find a new one with her own personality that is perfect for where I am in life now, and I hope I am the same for her as well. We just need to figure out if she is you or not. I am not seeking out sex as I want to value the person I am with as more than a pleasure toy. But I am not sure how I would react if and when a lady would seek it out from me. You can say you would or wouldn't, but reality dictates none of know what we'd do in the heat of the moment. And how in sync I am with them as a person might be a factor too. If I am really liking them, saying no might be a little too hard to do, even though I want to prove you are worth the wait. It's called being human. I am seeking someone for marriage in the end but want to start as just friends until such a time we both know it is worth the effort to go farther as a couple. I am not one to hit the sheets with just anyone. I prefer to wait so I can add more passion to the moment after you mean more than just a cheap moment of pleasure. The lady I seek is well worth that level of waiting for greater passion. Part of it is just being with one true love for 42 years. Going to a lower level of passion cheapens me too. Plus being with someone else after that long together makes me kind of nervous. Having time to be comfortable with them first will help calm my nerves with that.

Some of you may want children but while I have grown twin sons who are 38 months older than my daughter, I no longer can have children. I want to be upfront and have added this to my profile because for some, that is a dealbreaker. I don't want to waste your time. Moments after my daughter was born in a military hospital, they pointed to my crotch and said "We're gonna fix that thing", and 2-3 months later, they did. My late wife had a rough delivery that time around, thus the need to get me fixed was legit. I was under lawful military orders, so I had no choice to go through with it. Because they used the word "fixed" like I was some breed of dog or cat, I tell people they neutered me, just as a joke.

I am having issues getting messages here, so if you try to contact me here, please be aware of that. I prefer to meet you in person as no other way of meeting someone tells you as much about them as this way does. It won't show me my inbox, even when it says there in something in there. If you can't get through to me on this site, try my Facebook link at: https://www.facebook.com/jerry.conner.568

Regardless of if I interest you or not, here is a photo tip. Actually two. Always smile. It shows your heart. No smile makes it look like you have none if you really give it some thought. The other thing is to never cover your eyes. It shows your soul. Hiding it can also make it look like you have none of those either. As for me, I look at these before I look at a hot bod as your heart & soul being revealed tells me so much and can be what draws me into you. That's how my late wife caught me. I fell for her heart & soul and the rest is history. These are your best assets, so why not use them wisely to catch the right guy. Regardless of if I am him or not. Your eyes & smile have ways of talking that you may forget from time to time. I hope this info helps.

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