12 Successful First Date Conversation Tips

Today, convincing someone to date you isn't so hard as it was before. The challenge now is how to strike a meaningful conversation. The things you say will eventually be the deciding factor about your second date. Everyone gets jittery on the first date. We all want to make sure that we do things right and that we do not offend the other party. The best kind of conversation is an organic one. It has to be natural. The problem is most first dates turn some people into non-stop talking robots. To prevent this, we have prepared 12 tips to make your conversations more meaningful.

1. Ask questions and show interest
Do not be ashamed to ask questions. However, make sure that your questions are not touching any sensitive subject. This is important so as not to look so self-absorbed. It also shows your date that you are interested in her and her life. You can also prepare your own questions at home.

2. Avoid talking negatively about yourself
This is pretty much self-explanatory. Do not talk about bad things about yourself because it can put off your date. It may also make you look like somebody who just wants acceptance. And this is a little immature, to say the least. It is alright to admit a little thing here and there but never take out the big guns.

3. Don't be afraid to admit you are nervous
It is very likely that your date is feeling the same way. And this can be an icebreaker since both will find familiarity with the emotion. Let your date know how you feel and this will set the pace and tone of the conversation. Keep it light and steady. Give each one a chance to get to know each other and just talk about silly things to take the pressure off.

4. Don't try to "Out Do" Them
This means you should avoid being bigger and better. If the other person said she had been in London, do not say that you have more countries that her. If you do this, your date will feel belittled and insufficient. The best thing to say if your date said something about a meaningful experience is to congratulate here and tell her that she is lucky to have experienced that.

5. Ask what their favorites things are
People like talking about themselves. They will be eager to disclose things that matter to them like their favorite foods and drinks. This is a fun conversation and a good way to find out if you have similarities. If both of you like ice cream, then you just opened a door to invite your date to another one, this time going out to eat ice cream.

6. Ask about their job but avoid money talk
This is rude, to say the least. It is perfectly alright to discuss jobs and what each other is doing in the office. But it is never a good thing to ask for financial information on the first date. It will be viewed as an attack or a contest. It is also not fine to ask about a person's rent or how much it is, or what car he drives.

7. Don't reveal your deepest secrets or spill your guts
There are many things that should be left unsaid. The date is not meant for you to display your anger and hostility towards what is wrong with the world. Revealing your secrets and other sentiments must come later on. You must do this a little at a time so as not to spook your date.

8.Don't be afraid to speak your mind
Do not be rude but politely tell the other person about something you find offensive. This includes other actions he did that you may not like dissing a waitress. It is important that boundaries are put in place and that your sentiments are respected. Dating is an activity that helps you find the right person. Do not settle for a date with an obnoxious individual who has no respect for others.

9. Try to avoid political talk
This is a bad topic on the dinner table. It is a fuse that is going to blow soon. Political opinions are too strong and it can alienate any person from going into another date with you. The exception is if you are dating someone who shares the same political opinion with you. Your best bet is to avoid this topic altogether because you might say something that can turn off your date.

10. Talk about past relationships but not too much
Do not treat your date as a therapy session. A little chat about exes is fine but do not linger on the topic. The best time to talk about past relationships in detail is if you have already been dating for several weeks. This will not spook the other person but instead try to get to know you better.

11. Definitely do not lie
This is something you should never do. Anyone who can lie on the first date can lie forever. Besides, why would you want to start building a relationship built on a lie? Anything you say, whether you omit a fact or said a straightforward lie, will come out in the future. You will date for several times and your partner will find the truth eventually.

12. Don't ask about the next date too soon
This may come out as counter-productive but it is really effective. Asking too soon shows too much excitement and can put off the other party. The best time to ask for a second date is when the date is almost over. Make sure that the experience is positive.

Conclusion

When dating, always think about the best experiences that you can draw from it. We are not saying that you fake it, but you do not have to blow it, either. First dates are your gateway to getting more dates and eventually have a partner that you can enjoy life with. It can get awkward but if you are prepared, then nothing should stop you from getting to know the other person.

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