Signs of an Insecure Man / Boyfriend

Sometimes, a man can behave in ways that are difficult to understand. If his behavior is confusing you, you might want to start digging deeper. Sometimes, these erratic behaviors are signs of insecurities. If not addressed, it can lead to a sour relationship. Men display their insecurities in many ways. Some show aggression while some are too timid to stand up for themselves. While these men can be a potential problem in the future, there a few of them that only need a little nudge to change.

If you think your man has insecurities that manifest thorough his behavior, you must have the courage to talk to him about it. This is a delicate matter, like rubbing salt to an injury. But it must be done. He has to know that whatever his fears are, you are there to help him overcome them. In some cases, he may have fears that have no foundation and all it takes is an assurance from you.

If these insecurities are a threat to your relationship and both of you cannot fix it, it might make sense to get the help of a counselor. If refuses to do this, then perhaps it is time to move on. To help you understand how insecure men behave, here are 15 signs that will let you know if there is a brewing problem that needs your attention.

15 Signs That Your Boyfriend/Man Is Insecure

1. He is overly sensitive to criticism

Confident men can make fun of themselves. They are receptive to feedback and understand how to take positive criticism to improve themselves. An insecure man does not take any form of criticism lightly. They blow it up in proportions and they always try to justify why they are right. Insecure men have a low self-esteem that prevents them from seeing criticisms in a good light.

2. He checks your phone

Your smartphone is an extension of yourself. If a guy leans to look who texted you, or if he demands to have access to your phone, then you are dealing with a man whose insecurities are getting the better of him. He does not trust you and he does not trust in himself enough.

A confident man respects boundaries. He does not let his suspicions overcome his rationality.

3. He thinks you are being unfaithful

An insecure man always feels that he is being cheated. He always finds a reason to accuse you of flirting, of being unfaithful, or having an affair. He equates every little thing you do with infidelity. He does not feel good enough about himself and he masks this self-doubt by casting guilt over others.

And because he belittles himself, he will always have a reason to feed his insecurities. He will always make it look like he is the victim.

4. He is jealous of your friends

A man who is sure of himself will either come to terms with your friends. Or perhaps he will avoid them if he cannot stand them. But he will never ask you to stop seeing them. It is typical of an insecure man to always find a reason to start an argument every time you spent some time with your friends.

A confident man rejoices on the fact that he has you in his life and that the time you spend with your friends is nothing more than a fleeting moment of happiness that you rightfully deserve. He knows that you will come back and that you have all the time in the world to spend together.

5. His moods depend on you

A man who cares is someone who is sensitive to how you are feeling. If he starts saying you have no time for him, or you do not love him, because you are not in a stable emotional state, probably because there are so many things going on in the office or in your family, then you must start thinking if you are dating a man who thinks everything is only about himself. A man who always finds a reason to infuse himself in any situation is an insecure man.

6. He says you are everything to him

Any man worth his salt has the whole world to live for. Life is good and there are many opportunities to be happy.

If his world revolves around you and nothing else, it is a sign that he has a deeply rooted fear of losing you. Romantic gestures, gifts, and time spent together are all good to form a relationship. But there comes a time when it becomes annoying. If he has nothing else to do but be around you, you are dragging yourself in a situation with a man who will never let you be alone.

A man cannot solely live his life for you. Because if he does, he would expect the same thing from you. His insecurity lies in the fact that he expects you to take him and love him back unconditionally because he has given you everything.

7. He smothers you with attention and gifts

Some guys think that materials are the only thing that matter to women. And they use this to buy your love. They mask their insecurities with money, thinking that lavish gifts will compensate for what they lack—self-esteem. They know that if they are stripped off of money, they have nothing else to give.

Men who are grounded know that money is not everything in this world. They know that materials can surely bring joy and status, but it is not the yardstick of love.

8. He expects love in a short period of time

A relationship is built over time. While hormones make us swoon in romance, a sane person will not pronounce love on the second date. The only exception is if the guy has known you for so long but never had a chance to be with you.

If he expects you to reciprocate this feeling right away, or pressures you to tell him you love him, then this man is uncertain about himself. It is a clear indication of fear. He wants an assurance, a verbal one, that his efforts bore fruit. A confident man knows that a relationship is a risk. He know that dating is just the start of a long journey and he has the strength of character to accept defeat should you not love him back.

9. He cannot let go of his exes who cheated on him

While the truth of these stories is questionable, there is no doubt that a man who keeps on bringing up his ex-girlfriends is a man who needs some assurance of himself.

An insecure boyfriend typically says that he had been in relationships where he was taken for granted, that he was never loved, and that nobody really cared about him. What he expects are words from you that he will never go through the same pain again.

This is going to be emotionally draining for you because no matter how many times you assure him, he will always find a reason to say how you are treating him in the same way his ex-girlfriends did.

10. He needs constant validation

It is normal for a man to ask you about what you think and feel about him. But it is not normal if he asks you to tell you that you love him all the time. If he needs you to verbalize your feelings for him all the time to the point that it becomes obligatory and annoying, then you are dealing with a man whose self-esteem is so low that he needs somebody to pull it out of the hole for him.

A confident man only needs one assurance. In fact, your actions mean more to him than your words.

11. He stalks you on social media

If he does not let you live a healthy social life online, he will not let you live it for real. A boyfriend who is always on your social media is someone who is so insecure of himself that he thinks you are flirting with other guys online. If he starts meddling with your posts, like telling you that he should have given you his permission first before you post, then may be it is time to accept that his insecurities are so deeply rooted and beyond repair.

12. He has no friends

Your boyfriend does not mention anyone and does not hang out with people. He does not tell stories about the office or how his day went. A normal man would have friends. Or at the very least, he must have something else to do other than spending his time with you.

If he is mentally healthy, he must show some interest about something like sports or a hobby. A man who is at ease about himself will not spend 100% of his time with you because he is grounded in the belief that you love him.

13. He threatens to let you go

This is similar to a man who needs validation, but he has taken it a step further. An insecure man who threatens to break up with you does not really mean it. What he is waiting for is for you to beg him to stay. Usually, statements about breaking up with you is a test to see how you would react. He just wants to hear you say that you do not want to end your relationship.

If you agree to end the relationship, he is likely to feel sorry he ever said it. He will say so and make amends with you. A confident man, on the other hand, does not threaten to break up with you. He will break up with you.

14. He gets upset if you cannot be with him everyday

Matured men, and those who are sure of themselves, know that women need to spend time with others to have a healthy social life. An insecure man does not understand this because he is so wrapped up about himself. And he thinks that you should also do the same.

He wants your undivided attention all the time. You can't go out with friends and family and you can't run errands. You cannot essentially do anything because he wants you to be around him all the time. In his mind, the time you spent with him is a measurement of his importance.

15. He raises issues about your ex

If a man always finds a reason to bring your ex-boyfriend into a discussion, it is a clear indication of insecurity. Typically, men who are unsure of themselves put the limelight of guilt towards others to mask their own failures. They try to exploit you through making you feel guilty for a past relationship that you already left behind. If your boyfriend always compares your exes to himself, he is clearly wallowing in self-pity and has little respect for himself.

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