How do guys feel about women making the first move? (56)

How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

We love it.. go for it..

I feel quite flattered if the lady makes the first move. Sometimes men overlook a real gem for whatever reason. So, come on ladies, don't be shy.

Go for it as everyone wins and no losers.

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

It can remove any questions, confusion about the situation. I would recommend trying not to blindside the guy though. Walking along having a friendly conversation, never having dated or talked about it, if you just randomly kiss the guy, it might be a bit awkward for a few.

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if you just randomly kiss the guy, it might be a bit awkward for a few.

Yeah, consent is kind of important...
I meant just asking someone out.


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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

PLEASE! Do it. Then we don't have to wonder if you are interested.

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if you just randomly kiss the guy, it might be a bit awkward for a few.

Yeah, consent is kind of important...
I meant just asking someone out.

Yes. But if you have consent, is it really the first move? (Kinda teasing you here.) Seriously, for me, if I'm interested in dating a woman it's stressful to a build up the nerve to ask, think of an outing that will appeal to her... If she beat me to the punch and took all that off my plate.... Yeah, that would be awesome.

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Yes. But if you have consent, is it really the first move? (Kinda teasing you here.) Seriously, for me, if I'm interested in dating a woman it's stressful to a build up the nerve to ask, think of an outing that will appeal to her... If she beat me to the punch and took all that off my plate.... Yeah, that would be awesome.

Can't tell you how many crushes I had when I was younger and I never told them anything at all because we had a great friendship and I didn't want to ruin that or some other silly reason my mind made up, lol. I think it's all likely based on fear of rejection. I just need to stop being a coward. I like to think rejection is divine protection anyhow.

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

We love it.. go for it..

It depends on how shy the guy is.
it's easier to go along with a new prospect. that is giving you all the right signals, than to risk rejection in front of anyone watching you walk over to engage her.

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Yes. But if you have consent, is it really the first move? (Kinda teasing you here.) Seriously, for me, if I'm interested in dating a woman it's stressful to a build up the nerve to ask, think of an outing that will appeal to her... If she beat me to the punch and took all that off my plate.... Yeah, that would be awesome.

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Can't tell you how many crushes I had when I was younger and I never told them anything at all because we had a great friendship and I didn't want to ruin that or some other silly reason my mind made up, lol. I think it's all likely based on fear of rejection. I just need to stop being a coward. I like to think rejection is divine protection anyhow.

It's truly the same for a lot of guys too, I believe. Nervous to ask out the woman we just met because we're seemingly hitting it off, or she seems to be, "out of our league." My best female friend, through High School I'd make a lame, seriously lame, occasional attempt to see if maybe we could, "go out." Never happened. (To this day she has some pretty silly/embarrassing letters I wrote.) Our friendship grew over the years. Like 13, or so, years after High School there was a window of opportunity where I maybe could have taken a chance on going to the next level. I chose not to, or maybe chickened out. Doesn't matter. At that point we'd been really good friends for 10+ years, and in that time we'd only had 10 minutes of drama. That was because her cousin owed me money, I'd wanted to rough him up, she didn't want me to. In the end he paid me back, and life went on. We're still good friends to this day.
Hard choice to make. Risk what you have for the chance of something more, that could be amazing... or lead to the end of any form of relationship. I wish you the best whichever choice you make, and wish you luck if you take, or already took a chance.

I love it when the lady makes the first move,That's how most of my relationships begin. I have always on the shy side.

I’m for it. Anyone should make a move if they feel like it

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

. Honesty and respect mix in some spontaneity. And we just might find an appropriate place to meet for the first time. No matter who asks first. This isn't high School nor is it old fashioned times. Go for it!

Now days, people have had so many toxic relationships that have broken any and everything they thought they knew about the do's and dont's when it comes to dating/how long its been since the other persons breakup/ECT... Unfortunately, "REBOUNDING" seems to run rampant with alot of people whose heart/investment really dont fully leave the previous relationship. Considering it more as a "BREAK" or "HALLPASS". Its hard to invest any extra feelings anymore because of this. We fear catching feelings therefore making a "first move" has become increasingly harder. Past relationships have literally whooped our asses to the point where we dont know if we could take another whoopin' like that. Even though we are strong and can endure alot, eventually it can completely break a persons mentality, then next they become unable to physically express themselves. Scared of change/the unknown/making more mistakes/or possibly even scaring away new people. As a man i'd be more than flattered if a woman made the first move. But at the same time, it all depends on the situation and just how comfortable you are with the other person. You never know if you never try though. Everyone,(well,,, most) ,says they want a REAL, LONG LASTING/HONEST/TRUE LOVE... But, fail. Do to the fact that one or the other aernt ready to accept the fact that nothings perfect and it will always be a work in progress. Nobodys perfect, even if they seem it at first. Also, i would like to apologize because i kinda went a little "too much" answering this question. Apparently i needed to make myself look foolish..... Mission Accomplished!!!

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

Love it!

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

Go for it

I think its cool and it feels good when someone notices you and wants to talk to you. I don't think it happens enough for me at least but I definitely think it's cool

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Yes. But if you have consent, is it really the first move? (Kinda teasing you here.) Seriously, for me, if I'm interested in dating a woman it's stressful to a build up the nerve to ask, think of an outing that will appeal to her... If she beat me to the punch and took all that off my plate.... Yeah, that would be awesome.

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Can't tell you how many crushes I had when I was younger and I never told them anything at all because we had a great friendship and I didn't want to ruin that or some other silly reason my mind made up, lol. I think it's all likely based on fear of rejection. I just need to stop being a coward. I like to think rejection is divine protection anyhow.

Hello all I'm Gary from Riverside C.A I wish woman would always make the first move Thinking about all the girls who led me on only to turn me down I can't say it made me stronger but it didn't make me any weaker ether I can't help but wonder how many girls wanted me to ask them out but didn't life would be so much better if we knew what your thinking any way that's my two cent's btw I'm 63 swm never married no kids so there you go

It's really hot if the woman makes the first move. That's definitely a plus

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It's really hot if the woman makes the first move. That's definitely a plus

But usually now before going on a first date I always ask what are their intentions and if they wanted sex.
And everyone wants sex lol

Im not a guy. I probably shouldn't chime in, but we dont live in the 1800s any more. We work, pay bills, cook do laundry, why shouldn't we be able to ask a guy out ? Worst thing they could say is no.

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if you just randomly kiss the guy, it might be a bit awkward for a few.

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Yeah, consent is kind of important...
I meant just asking someone out.

Definitely go for it. what is the worst can happen he says no and you are a bit embarrassed? in the end guys are somewhat hesitant now a days because of all the PC expectations. Hate seeing that happen. Also I often am distracted or oblivious to the signals that someone may have an interest so would welcome being approached

I've been asked out quite a few times myself! Though unfortunately it hasnt been very fruitful. For me it makes no difference on who asks who! You never know who's attracted too you, so a woman taking initiative to ask a man out is okay in my book!.

Can't tell you how many crushes I had when I was younger and I never told them anything at all because we had a great friendship and I didn't want to ruin that or some other silly reason my mind made up, lol. I think it's all likely based on fear of rejection. I just need to stop being a coward. I like to think rejection is divine protection anyhow.

Men are just as stressed over rejection as women are! Especially if you are a woman with self worth, morals, values, and class! If you have a friend your interested to have something more with.... would it really hurt to break the ice? And this goes for both men and women! You on live once and to say nothing to a potential partner is doing yourself a disservice! What's the worst that could happen? Rejection? At least you'll know where you stand and not have the constant wonder of what if!

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

I absolutely enjoy it

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

Go for it as it is not the 50's anymore

I wish more of them would make the first move

If the man feels alienated by the woman gesture coming on to him it just shows that he doesn't have confidence in himself. I'll actually love when a woman comes on to me I think that's very erotic sometimes it gets it gets tired being the executive life. So please come on to a man and you will know if he has confidence or not!

I think very sexy an big turn on

sometimes I just can't help myself so I do. Usually works just fine.

Certainly clarifies things, sometimes us guys can be pretty oblivious. You can drop all the subtle hints you want and there are quite a few of us, that it just goes right over our heads. Initiating intimacy leaves no doubt that you are interested in taking things to the next level..

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

I do welcome an advance from a woman which I have no confidence at all in myself of approaching any woman as it works out for me most of the time

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sometimes I just can't help myself so I do. Usually works just fine.

Go ahead and make the first move. I can assure you that neither one of us will regret it. Gregory

I guess it depends on the circumstances

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

Nice change of pace

I enjoy a forward woman. If she finds me attractive, I am flattered and lets chat!! I had some women who were forward but stalked me, became pests. One almost was arrested.. Men must ask a woman and she will decide if she is interested. When 'she' asks him first, he must decide to chat or not

I have no objection 😉

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

I am a man that hates making the first move. I don’t want to make a woman feeling uncomfortable because of me. I like a woman making the first move.

That is nice to hear. Do you like older women?

I love it personally 💖😍

To me nothing is sexier than a confidant woman that has no problem going after what she wants. One of the benefits of dating women in their 40s and older is that this happens much more often. Girls are still often raised with the sex is bad notion. And I get it. If I were a parent I would not want to send my daughter into the dating world thinking, “go ahead, f*ck who you want….” Obviously there are some exceptions, but it takes some time for many women to develop this I think. FWB in 20s almost always a disaster. FWB in 40s seems to work better.

I don’t hate making the first move, I’m just very very slow to do it. It’s not fear of rejection but fear of making someone else feel uncomfortable. I’ve had Sex. I’m not desperate for sex. No doubt I’ve missed a few opportunities doing this, but more often than not I am told that it is appreciated and has better results.

Can't tell you how many crushes I had when I was younger and I never told them anything at all because we had a great friendship and I didn't want to ruin that or some other silly reason my mind made up, lol. I think it's all likely based on fear of rejection. I just need to stop being a coward. I like to think rejection is divine protection anyhow.

Despite arguments made by people with lots of failed relationships, the best relationships start with friendship. I know from personal experience.

My wife of 41 years was my best friend and my soul mate. Our love was built on friendship.
When she died I felt like my life was over, but I know she wouldn't want me to feel like that.

But one thing is sure ,romance doesn't last 24/7. Sometimes you're just too tired or have a lot on your mind. That's when friendship makes love special. When love and friendship join together they generate an energy that is the strongest on earth.

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

wish it would happen more often as I have trouble approaching only to be rejected 85% of the time

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

I don't mind it. It shows a woman knows her own mind and is willing to try new things.

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

TO ME ITS GREAT , MOST MEN GOTTO STAND ON THEIR DICKS TO BE A MAN AN THE MEANING THEY NEED FEEL THEIR EGO ! IM A MAN WHO LIKES BOTH WAYS . SOME TIMES ITS NICE GET SEDUCED BY A WOMAN .

I prefer when the lady makes the first move. I’m respectful and fear going to far sometimes, afraid of being disrespectful. When the girl makes the first move, I know she’s willing and I won’t offend her for going to far too quick.

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How do guys feel about women making the first move? Am I just super old school with the idea that it's still the expectation for the man to make the first move or is that still the status quo? How are women perceived for making the first move? Is it different for everyone? Just curious.

Personally, I love it, however I'm just A guy.. Asking how GUYS like are going to give you varied answers depending on their background, experiences, and unfortunately their scars. You know, the ones you can't see. woman are not the ones with scars. My late wife of 25 years and I first met when she faked a malfunctioning pickup to get me took at it. Yeah, I saw that coming, still loved it. Best 25 years of my life. But like I said, every guy is different.